It is amazing how simple laws in the universe can be translated to more complex ones all within the same scope. Microcosmic, Macrocosmic. For example, the very simple occurence of a cycle. Every pattern in life can be likened to a cycle. The cellular cycle,butterfly's life cycle, the emotional cycle, our sleep cycle, the earth's cycle, cosmic cycles, universal cycles. Cycles.
Thus, simplicity and sophistication are linked. Simplicity is the ultimate sophistication (Occam's Razor).
And simple it is, but what exactly is simple if it is also sophisticated?
Monday, November 15, 2010
Tuesday, September 14, 2010
MIA
So i totally forgot about my blog.
So where was i? These few months ran past me without me even truly noticing how long it took. I mean, in retrospect, i know it was a few months but it just didn't feel like a few months.
For one, i'm in a different place now. I have different friends now. My life is going down a path away from the normal one that everyone else back there takes.
It does puzzle me still on why i can not talk with a flow in reality but i seem to be able to churn out words by typing or writing. Given that writing in a blog or diary is like writing/speaking to yourself, i think its valid to say that i am an introverted thinker and process information in my mind instead of on the 'spot'.
Not wanting to sound too technical, recently (in fact just a few days ago), i somehow was and further shockingly, STILL able to look someone in the eye and talk. It is kinda freaky because i don't think i really have had that many people in my life whom i can do this with. Now, what is not technical about this is the ability to have a connection with a fellow being and come to the realisation that, between us all, there isn't really much barriers except the ones that we personally set up or those of a physical nature - we're all the same.
It is just how much we are willing to open up and trust each other.
So where was i? These few months ran past me without me even truly noticing how long it took. I mean, in retrospect, i know it was a few months but it just didn't feel like a few months.
For one, i'm in a different place now. I have different friends now. My life is going down a path away from the normal one that everyone else back there takes.
It does puzzle me still on why i can not talk with a flow in reality but i seem to be able to churn out words by typing or writing. Given that writing in a blog or diary is like writing/speaking to yourself, i think its valid to say that i am an introverted thinker and process information in my mind instead of on the 'spot'.
Not wanting to sound too technical, recently (in fact just a few days ago), i somehow was and further shockingly, STILL able to look someone in the eye and talk. It is kinda freaky because i don't think i really have had that many people in my life whom i can do this with. Now, what is not technical about this is the ability to have a connection with a fellow being and come to the realisation that, between us all, there isn't really much barriers except the ones that we personally set up or those of a physical nature - we're all the same.
It is just how much we are willing to open up and trust each other.
Sunday, May 16, 2010
Yes this is me! like really me! lol
How to keep an INTP man happy
by Cafeaulaltinfj
That's what I've learned so far IRL over the past 12 years and right here on intpopen in the last couple of years.
1.) Sex (of course). Pretty much whenever they want, but you get bonus points for initiating it. *hint* let him know what you like and he will try to do it. Variety is good as long as it doesn't involve huge amounts of planning and effort on his part. Little physical pleasures, not necessarily sexual, will get you lots of bonus points. Back scratching, brushing whatever hair they have, massage, that kind of thing. *big important hint for F types* if you want snuggles after sex, don't let him roll over and go to sleep while you lie there and fume. TELL HIM you want snuggles, don't whine about it or try to make him feel guilty. If you want a psychic, call a hotline.
2.) Food. INTP men aren't overly demanding in this area, though they do enjoy good food. If you keep enough "forage" around, they will be content. If you want them to be healthy, you have to make a meal or so a day and make sure they remember to eat it. If you bring it to them at the computer, they will eat almost anything without even realizing they've eaten. *hint* an elaborate meal is not worth a lot of points and you can actually lose points if they don't like it and you get all upset about them not liking it.
3.) Physical environment. They need a place to store their magazines, books, CDs and orphaned computers they've taken in. They need a path to and from the important places in the house: the computer, the fridge, the bathroom, and the bed. Reasonable climate-control must be maintained, because they do not notice things like this themselves, but only the eventual physical effects. (Drowsiness because it's too warm, etc.) Keeping a beautiful house may not be worth too many points. *hint * If the house is perfect and you are wacko, anal-retentive witch about the house, you will lose points.
4.) Clothing. They need a clean set of clothes each day. The condition isn't particularly important. Some may find a particular kind of clothing they like and it will become a uniform of sorts, only varying in color. If you want them to look good, replace the uniform components as they wear out. *hint* ask before you throw their old clothes (or anything else) out. They can form emotional attachments to things without your realizing it. If you throw out an "attached" object, it is like betrayal and you will lose a lot of points for no good reason.
5.) Emotional. Be nice and do not screw with their heads. They can be sensitive. If you want something, ask for it. If you do not get all emotional and are willing to take no for an answer, they will usually try to accommodate any reasonable request. *hint* Socializing with large (or sometimes even small) groups of people for extended periods of time is not a reasonable request. This is normal behavior, not something you need to fix. It is not personal. If you like to socialize a lot, you have two choices: be willing to leave him at home with some cold pizza and his computer or find a different guy.
These guys *need* to feel smart and competent. If you attack them in this area, if you try to make them feel stupid or incompetent, you lose some serious points.
Accept early on that he loves you but can't, repeat CAN'T read your mind. If you are always expecting him to do things that he didn't know he was supposed to do and if you keep getting mad at him for not doing things that he didn't know he was supposed to do (or not do) he will become bewildered and frustrated and will give up trying to please you. He will either come to only tolerate you or he will escape. Be please-able. When he does something nice, say thank you, even if it's not what you wanted or its a little weird. Having him want to do nice things for you is the important thing. You can work on the details later.
At some point, your rational INTP is going to show some emotion, maybe even "open up" to you. You are at a major points situation here. You can win a lot of points or you can lose even more. Revere this as the honor it is. The emotions are probably going to be undeveloped and may seem odd. Accept them, respect them, validate them. If you do, you will build his trust for you.
6.) Intellectual. They need their computer. They need reading material. They need intelligent conversation. If you aren't an NT you may have to work at this. You have to listen, try to understand. If you don't quite get it, ask questions. There will be some things that you are not going to get. It isn't hopeless, they can accept that if everything else is good and you give them space. There are some things that they will talk about that will make your eyes glaze over (just like you glaze their eyes over by talking about all the emotional crap you talk about). Try to act interested, they do it for you. Keep your own mind busy. Read, learn stuff. Have something intelligent to say. Be able to converse well about some subjects. INTPs have their own interests, but they like to learn about all kinds of stuff and will probably be willing to talk about your interests, too.
Give your INTP the space they need to gorge on information and to ruminate and you will be rewarded with someone who always has something interesting to talk about and some funny stories to tell you.
Career/money. This can call for some serious patience. It can take a long time to find a good paying job that they don't hate. You have to either be willing to be broke a lot or be able and willing to make money yourself. You want to think hard about the money situation before you have kids. It is a lot easier to have a good attitude about doing without yourself than it is to see your kids doing without. You have to have as good an attitude as possible, because the career thing can be really hard on a guy's ego. They will really beat themselves up about this which will drain their confidence, which will, in turn, make the job search harder. You don't want to make it worse. You need to be supportive and stay out of the way unless they ask you for help. They'll eventually find something.
That's what I've learned so far IRL over the past 12 years and right here on intpopen in the last couple of years.
by Cafeaulaltinfj
That's what I've learned so far IRL over the past 12 years and right here on intpopen in the last couple of years.
1.) Sex (of course). Pretty much whenever they want, but you get bonus points for initiating it. *hint* let him know what you like and he will try to do it. Variety is good as long as it doesn't involve huge amounts of planning and effort on his part. Little physical pleasures, not necessarily sexual, will get you lots of bonus points. Back scratching, brushing whatever hair they have, massage, that kind of thing. *big important hint for F types* if you want snuggles after sex, don't let him roll over and go to sleep while you lie there and fume. TELL HIM you want snuggles, don't whine about it or try to make him feel guilty. If you want a psychic, call a hotline.
2.) Food. INTP men aren't overly demanding in this area, though they do enjoy good food. If you keep enough "forage" around, they will be content. If you want them to be healthy, you have to make a meal or so a day and make sure they remember to eat it. If you bring it to them at the computer, they will eat almost anything without even realizing they've eaten. *hint* an elaborate meal is not worth a lot of points and you can actually lose points if they don't like it and you get all upset about them not liking it.
3.) Physical environment. They need a place to store their magazines, books, CDs and orphaned computers they've taken in. They need a path to and from the important places in the house: the computer, the fridge, the bathroom, and the bed. Reasonable climate-control must be maintained, because they do not notice things like this themselves, but only the eventual physical effects. (Drowsiness because it's too warm, etc.) Keeping a beautiful house may not be worth too many points. *hint * If the house is perfect and you are wacko, anal-retentive witch about the house, you will lose points.
4.) Clothing. They need a clean set of clothes each day. The condition isn't particularly important. Some may find a particular kind of clothing they like and it will become a uniform of sorts, only varying in color. If you want them to look good, replace the uniform components as they wear out. *hint* ask before you throw their old clothes (or anything else) out. They can form emotional attachments to things without your realizing it. If you throw out an "attached" object, it is like betrayal and you will lose a lot of points for no good reason.
5.) Emotional. Be nice and do not screw with their heads. They can be sensitive. If you want something, ask for it. If you do not get all emotional and are willing to take no for an answer, they will usually try to accommodate any reasonable request. *hint* Socializing with large (or sometimes even small) groups of people for extended periods of time is not a reasonable request. This is normal behavior, not something you need to fix. It is not personal. If you like to socialize a lot, you have two choices: be willing to leave him at home with some cold pizza and his computer or find a different guy.
These guys *need* to feel smart and competent. If you attack them in this area, if you try to make them feel stupid or incompetent, you lose some serious points.
Accept early on that he loves you but can't, repeat CAN'T read your mind. If you are always expecting him to do things that he didn't know he was supposed to do and if you keep getting mad at him for not doing things that he didn't know he was supposed to do (or not do) he will become bewildered and frustrated and will give up trying to please you. He will either come to only tolerate you or he will escape. Be please-able. When he does something nice, say thank you, even if it's not what you wanted or its a little weird. Having him want to do nice things for you is the important thing. You can work on the details later.
At some point, your rational INTP is going to show some emotion, maybe even "open up" to you. You are at a major points situation here. You can win a lot of points or you can lose even more. Revere this as the honor it is. The emotions are probably going to be undeveloped and may seem odd. Accept them, respect them, validate them. If you do, you will build his trust for you.
6.) Intellectual. They need their computer. They need reading material. They need intelligent conversation. If you aren't an NT you may have to work at this. You have to listen, try to understand. If you don't quite get it, ask questions. There will be some things that you are not going to get. It isn't hopeless, they can accept that if everything else is good and you give them space. There are some things that they will talk about that will make your eyes glaze over (just like you glaze their eyes over by talking about all the emotional crap you talk about). Try to act interested, they do it for you. Keep your own mind busy. Read, learn stuff. Have something intelligent to say. Be able to converse well about some subjects. INTPs have their own interests, but they like to learn about all kinds of stuff and will probably be willing to talk about your interests, too.
Give your INTP the space they need to gorge on information and to ruminate and you will be rewarded with someone who always has something interesting to talk about and some funny stories to tell you.
Career/money. This can call for some serious patience. It can take a long time to find a good paying job that they don't hate. You have to either be willing to be broke a lot or be able and willing to make money yourself. You want to think hard about the money situation before you have kids. It is a lot easier to have a good attitude about doing without yourself than it is to see your kids doing without. You have to have as good an attitude as possible, because the career thing can be really hard on a guy's ego. They will really beat themselves up about this which will drain their confidence, which will, in turn, make the job search harder. You don't want to make it worse. You need to be supportive and stay out of the way unless they ask you for help. They'll eventually find something.
That's what I've learned so far IRL over the past 12 years and right here on intpopen in the last couple of years.
Thursday, May 13, 2010
Problems & Solutions
Often, we are too busy looking at the problems until we forget that what we need really do is to seek the solutions. And it's just typical of asian tradition to whine and wallow in emotions.
Friday, May 7, 2010
Opposites
For every 1 north, there is a south.
Such is the implication that if you have enemies in your life, you indeed are at least headed in a direction.
Or would you, like many others, just be content to drift wherever fortune favors in the attempt of avoiding opposition?
Such is the implication that if you have enemies in your life, you indeed are at least headed in a direction.
Or would you, like many others, just be content to drift wherever fortune favors in the attempt of avoiding opposition?
Sunday, April 25, 2010
Animal vs Robot
Given that we were ourselves primitive and primarily based on emotions before the development of advanced intelligence, and the future to which we are headed to - one of logic and calculated decisions...
Would you choose to be a "Robot" or "Animal"?
Senseless instinctual emotions, or calculated thought and action?
If emotions define our humanity, it is also the source of hate and anger. But also of love.
If we were to lose our "humanity", we would achieve unprecedented progress with minimal losses and calculated risks without having to worry about emotions and ethics.
A very difficult choice indeed. Where are we headed?
Would you choose to be a "Robot" or "Animal"?
Senseless instinctual emotions, or calculated thought and action?
If emotions define our humanity, it is also the source of hate and anger. But also of love.
If we were to lose our "humanity", we would achieve unprecedented progress with minimal losses and calculated risks without having to worry about emotions and ethics.
A very difficult choice indeed. Where are we headed?
Friday, April 23, 2010
The Religious
On why i never believe in religion. Why? Because it satisfies your deepest insecurities.
Telling you that ultimately no matter how wretched you are, something or some IDEA out there loves you.
Unconditional love. Now, beat that?
And thus masses are flocking to religion because yes, it gives you what you need, it nourishes your soul. It strokes your ego. It tells you that all those losers out there who put you down can never get past your "Lord" god. And such people, are very inconsiderate people.
And does GOD really need to exist for that to happen? No, all that's needed is that YOU believe that you are loved unconditionally, even if its by something that doesn't exist. You are loved by something that doesn't exist, which you believe does - and that is very applicable. Face it, you need religion because of your deep rooted insecurities which you refuse to face, yet want to find salvation for.
On why i am INFURIATED. Why?
Because, right here, people provide for you... give you love, care and concern. And because of this idea of god and religion that you have, you believe that your true family is UP THERE, and what of those around you that truly wish you well and care for you? Naw, mr-big-man up there comes first. And speaking of which, why is he a man? Why is he a father? Because in olden times, it was a bloody male dominated society, that's why god is a man. Like doesn't that reek of "made up story" already?
HI!!! Your friends are here!!! Wake up! *Waves Hands* Stop facing ONLY the building (church) that you believe is the stairway to heaven. While you are on earth, fulfill your duties to those around you. If god is truly omniscient and omnipotent, he doesn't need your money, cash, love more than the poor people of this world do. Ok?
Even if people want to believe that there IS a god. Right. Ok. Well, you're not in heaven yet, so start acting your part of being on earth.
Telling you that ultimately no matter how wretched you are, something or some IDEA out there loves you.
Unconditional love. Now, beat that?
And thus masses are flocking to religion because yes, it gives you what you need, it nourishes your soul. It strokes your ego. It tells you that all those losers out there who put you down can never get past your "Lord" god. And such people, are very inconsiderate people.
And does GOD really need to exist for that to happen? No, all that's needed is that YOU believe that you are loved unconditionally, even if its by something that doesn't exist. You are loved by something that doesn't exist, which you believe does - and that is very applicable. Face it, you need religion because of your deep rooted insecurities which you refuse to face, yet want to find salvation for.
On why i am INFURIATED. Why?
Because, right here, people provide for you... give you love, care and concern. And because of this idea of god and religion that you have, you believe that your true family is UP THERE, and what of those around you that truly wish you well and care for you? Naw, mr-big-man up there comes first. And speaking of which, why is he a man? Why is he a father? Because in olden times, it was a bloody male dominated society, that's why god is a man. Like doesn't that reek of "made up story" already?
HI!!! Your friends are here!!! Wake up! *Waves Hands* Stop facing ONLY the building (church) that you believe is the stairway to heaven. While you are on earth, fulfill your duties to those around you. If god is truly omniscient and omnipotent, he doesn't need your money, cash, love more than the poor people of this world do. Ok?
Even if people want to believe that there IS a god. Right. Ok. Well, you're not in heaven yet, so start acting your part of being on earth.
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